What is Codependency:
Codependency is a compromising of self, formed in childhood. If we grew up missing the imprint of a healthy relationship, which is the responsibility of our parents or caregivers, we start to develop low levels of self love, self esteem, self value, self respect and self care, which makes us feel not good enough or worthy. If we were never validated as a child, we form an inner void and will constantly seek external validation from others.
Codependence is a form of addiction. We chase the feeling of worthiness and want to feel good enough. We might have a fear of abandonment or rejection from our childhood, so we keep trying and doing more, loving deeply to show others we are good enough and worthy. We are used to feeling this way.
"NO is the most empowering word for those who struggle with people pleasing, low self-esteem and codependency"
A codependent can also be an empath. Not all empath are codependent. As an empath we thrive on taking care of others and being a people pleaser. When we enter into a new relationship we often try “to change him” by loving him more, being more agreeable, keeping the peace and becoming who we think he wants us to be.
An empath and a narcissist are both codependent and initially seem like the perfect match. The narcissist shines a spotlight on our wounds. Both experience a low sense of self that they are seeking outside validation to fill. But the relationship will never work! An empath has empathy towards others and has an open heart. An empath will take ownership of their feelings and reactions. A narcissist has a closed heart, lacks empathy and is not willing to take ownership of their reactions or actions.
It is possible to become an empowered empath by learning to set boundaries.
You can become a boundary queen and recover from codependency